You’ve successfully had that lady agree to go out on a date with you, isn’t it? Because, most of the time, it’s no easy feat to have a girl you like agree on a date.
And when she’s finally set all emotions aside and meets with you at the date location, you have to act the perfect gentleman so as not to have her rolling her eyes and glancing at her watch frequently.
You’re partly won her above by having her with you where you both are right now. To totally have her on your side and be yours, do not do certain things. Avoid them like the plague! Remember, first impression matters.
As a guy, are there things or habits you should avoid displaying when out on a date with a girl? Habits like the following…
one: Trying too hard
You may be so over excited about the whole situation, but do not show your gushing excitement. She’s still contemplating and figuring if she’s having a good date. Don’t ruin the moment by droning on about how happy you are.
She knows that you’re happy, but don’t blow it all out, all through the date. Make her wonder if you’re having a great time. Don’t give in to the chase even before it begins!
two: Answering phone calls
You may be the world’s busiest man, so no one’s telling you not to pick up calls or that you have to leave your phone at home, but you should know how to use it well.
Make sure your calls are short, even if you have to answer them. Don’t cut her in mid sentence to answer the call. Wait until she’s done with her sentence, and then excuse yourself, if only for a moment.
Another way you can actually make her feel more special is by answering the call, only to tell the person that you’re with someone who’s very important to you, and whatever it is, you could talk about it the next day! You could also add a cheeky grin to stop you from appearing pompous.
three: Your views versus hers
Be careful around here, opinions, views, moral issues, religion, politics are very touchy topics. It wouldn’t be impossible for both of you to have different views about different things. Arguing about anything is a big turn off for a girl.
So, this type of topics should be avoided at any cost. And even if this does crop up, don’t tell her outright that you don’t want to talk about it, instead try sweeping the topic under the carpet without a big fuss.
Just answer the question in a vague and abrupt manner, and bring up something more exciting to talk about. Do not be dominating about any of your views, or be very boisterous about voicing your opinions.
Even if she supports something you’re firmly against, just give a small laugh, and tell her “Well, that’s one thing that I’m not too sure of, because, well, I’ve always felt the other way about that…” and complete the sentence saying, “…but I obviously respect your view, and our difference in opinions.” “Anyways tell me about the last time you…” And change the topic as subtly as you can. You’d have her there.
four: Being overly concerned
Don’t forget that you’re out with someone who’s matured enough to think and take care of herself. But you can ask her occasionally if she’s comfortable, or if she requires something. Just don’t stretch it by popping the same question over and over. It can get really annoying. Just enjoy the conversation and relax. Don’t push your protective and concerned act too far.
And if you find yourself running out of things to talk about, stop asking her if she’s having fun. Instead, be comfortable and speak about something else. Usually discussions like music, work, movies will take the conversation really far and you can also have a great time getting to know each other.
five: Losing control?
It’s important to be in control and make those decisions, like calling, caring and doing the necessary.